A Conversation with Wayne Dyer ~ by Ellen Mahoney

Mahoney: What's the payoff for living a life filled with excuses?

Wayne Dyer: There’s a payoff for everyone. The reason we hang on to self-defeating behaviors is because it’s easier not to take responsibility. If you’re blaming something or someone else for the way you are, then that person, those people, those circumstances or those energies, are going to have to change in order for you to get better; that’s most likely never going to happen. It’s also a way to manipulate other people.

Usually, making excuses is just something we can get away with, rather than challenging or changing ourselves. If you want to change and you want your life to work at a level you’ve never had before, then take responsibility for it.

I’m not saying that a child who was abused or beaten or abandoned made that happen, but your reaction to it is always yours. While you were four, you didn’t know anything other than being terrified and scared; you’re not four any longer. Now [as an adult] you have to make a choice and recognize that even the abuse that came into your life offers you an opportunity to transcend it, to become a better person and even more significantly, to help someone else not go through what you did.

Mahoney: What common excuses do people use in grappling with their conscience?

Wayne Dyer: Excuses are the explanations we use for hanging on to behaviors we don’t like about ourselves; they are self-defeating behaviors we don’t know how to change. In Excuses Begone! I review 18 of the most common excuses people use, such as “I’m too busy, too old, too fat, too scared or it’s going to take too long or be too difficult.” 

We spend a big hunk of our lifetimes contemplating what we can’t have, what we don’t want and what’s missing in our lives. What we have to learn is to put our attention and focus on contemplating what it is we would like to attract, and not on what is missing.

Source: A Conversation with Wayne Dyer by Ellen Mahoney, naturalawakeningsmag.com

Acceptance & Surrender

Whenever you are able, have a look inside yourself to see whether you are unconsciously creating conflict between the inner and the outer; between your external circumstances at that moment, where you are, who you're with, or what you’re doing, any thoughts and feelings. Can you feel how painful it is to internally stand in opposition to what is? When you recognize this, you also realize that you are now free to give up this futile conflict, this inner state of war.

~Spoken by Eckhart Tolle

Karma ~ by Eckhart Tolle

Karma is the complete absence of conscious presence. And, so it’s automatic. It plays itself out. Karma is unconscious identification with these patterns that you have inherited; the conditioned.

Complete identification of consciousness with the conditioned patterns, so consciousness is dreaming. Consciousness is awakening. Consciousness is in a dreamlike state when your identified with the unconscious patterns and then you are condemned to rebirth.

In fact many times every day you are reborn into a reaction, an emotional, mental reaction. No presence at all. Just rebirth into some form. Or, your reborn into thoughts that arise and you completely believe in every thought and then you act from those thoughts and emotions and the action creates further reactions and the actions confirm to you that you are right.

The only thing that can free you of karma is the arising of presence.

~Spoken by Eckhart Tolle